Thursday 29 September 2011

Quality Time: For Love or Sex?

Spending quality time with someone, is an important part of human development.  We all know about belonging, and needs.  Some of us have more social skills then others.   (We all knew folk like that..hell, we could be them even).  There is as many things we like to share, as there are people to share them.  Friends always have it easy.  I know the friends I can watch ‘Sex and the City’ with, or ‘Glee’, do dinners, movies, drink, run the roads, or do a spa night.  Once you cram a Samantha, Charlotte, or Miranda, (or even a Carrie),  into a significant other…and sex…it gets a little complex.

While courting, Str8 was more than willing to take me out, meet up with my friends for drinks and half price h’ordeuvres, and listen to us complain about work.  We did restaurants at lest twice a month.  Movies.  We would play favourite songs for each other, watching the videos on YouTube.  Sit on the deck, and star-gazer with a glass of wine.  Ah, the good old days

Now-a-days, I have been a soundboard for him about video games.  He explains them to me, thinking my hovering over him is a sign of interest.  (I do this to either bug him or annoy him  into not playing).  I have also taken to try to show some interest.  I have sat to watch him play.  Encourage him.  Scream at zombies.  Even played some with him.  On the other hand, I have taken to his interest in making homemade wine.  (It’s alcohol, after all.  And wine..a love we both share).  It’s something we do.  Even if he does most of the work, and I take orders.  (“hand me that towel”, “hold the tube”, “see this packet?  It is…”)  I feel like Igor, to his Count Dracula…  However, it is something we can do together.

I have in turn shared my pastimes of writing.  He is impressed with the blog, even if he says things like: “Do you think all those people really read your shit, or do they just happen on it by mistake?”     I know, I wish I could put into words how I feel about his support.  Or, my digital photo art.  He has been good with that. Even if he says things like:  “You did that?  Not bad.  What the fuck is it?”

This summer, we started a new thing.  On gorgeous days, in the heat and sun of summer, (the 3 days we were blessed with this year), we drive in to town to Point Pleasant Park.  And feed the squirrels.  Or, as a child, Str8 called them, ‘square-els’.  It is fun, and I have more squirrel photos than I do of him, or us together.  (Str8: “One picture each time we go is enough.  You starting a fucking blog about squirrels?”)

I will take the quality time of watching science-fiction with Str8 on my laptop, any day.  I guess, really even in movies, we willing give in to each other’s interests, just to enjoy being with each other.  While patriotic myself, (Jenna, my NDP cap is off to you), for me, being an artist, I have made Str8 sit through Canadian films.  “Gunless’, ‘Splice’, ‘Mambo Italiano’ (which, being a gay movie, he loved, even without any sex scenes)..and I have sat through some groaner, low quality kung fu movies.

I mean, I am not sure I could find myself being Katie Holmes-like to join Scientology, even for Tom Cruise.  (Sorry Tom).  Or find myself in the middle of croc territory, (no matter how much I love animals), like Terri did for Steve  ‘Crocodile Hunter’ Irwin.  (Sorry Terri).  However, I do enjoy every precious moment I have with the man I love, even if he is Str8.  And we all have learned our own limits when it comes to taking on our significant other’s interests.  That as humans, we are willing to make the case for companionship, and no matter how mundane, or exciting, we will do things for the ones we love.  More precisely, the truth is, that as Maslow said, we will do just about anything to get laid.  What?  It’s the nookie.  Right?

Paint it any colour you want, but humans are social creatures.  We thrive with interacting with others.  As creatures looking for companionship, we have so much to share.  It’s not about just the common interests, but the ones that are different.  Of all the reasons we will ourselves to share things together, is it just the prime directive of sex?  Do straight men really go to the opera just to sit next to their ladies?  Do ladies really suffer football just for the tight ends?  As much as it is for love?  Are we willing to try new things, for the sake of sex?  Or love?  Both?  What hobbies, interests, pastimes, adventures do you share with your partner?

Random Update: End of September

Str8 left Monday, for work, and is on his off time, and not driving down.  I think its more for peace and quiet than driving 8+ hrs to be here for a few hrs with me.  Apparently as the 'missy', I rather do the role well.  Maybe too well...pout.
I had a day off yesterday, not much really done.  Although, I watched Desperate Housewives, Doctor Who, and 2 & 1/2 Men....Saving my domestics for buying the videos..
Which means really no cleaning done.  Meh.  I am working on regaining my focus on life again.  Something I have been not doing, for a while.  Also like depression.  I figure it has something to do with the time of year.  Memory plays games and about a yr now, it only gets worse.  Wonder what that means....
another article on therealbryon@wordpress.com
so that was fun..though...readership down.  Pout.  I will do the great article that will change the world.  Or not.  lol
And a good friend, and neighbour was let go at work today.. so sad.. I am really sick with it.  I wish I could help her and her family out.  Rough times for them. Such bad timing.
Keep my nose clean, and job hunt on the side. 

Saturday 24 September 2011

Want: the Wanted



Love these guys.. so good, I think as good as the greatest boy bands: Westlife, Take That,
I got Str8 obsessed with them also..

Saturday 17 September 2011

Dream Lover

Moscow: Dream Adventure



How could anyone not want to see this?

Halifax Shots

the Pedway, between Scotia Square Mall and Barrington Place Shops
over looking Barrington Street



Barrington Street

one of the bridges...

the Town Clock Tower, Citadel Hill

Paul Lekakis:Hot Enough if Not Talented

 HIV+, and still amazing and fighting.


I did dirty things to the cover of my copy of this album...

Brock Zanrosso-Amazing Singer!

finalist on the Next Star, YTV








Can't help it.. he's sweet, cute, fit, and most of all -really talented..
suspect he will go really far and have a long career

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1V_9mVyQVfI&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hROoI6NVOaE

New Snack Food


Finally convinced Mr. Str8 to try to get healthy.  After 2 yrs of feeding him veggie, and international cuisine, got him to stop eating bags of cheese crunchies, crisps, and pretzel bits....
lovely flower gift from a dear friend
another great gift from another dear, old friend

gift from Mr. Str8, for our 1st Pride together

Jasper the sweetest kitty







My Jasper would be a great papa.. lets his younger friend Charcoal and their new tiny little kitty pal eat from his bowl.

Halifax Ghost Walk Tour










pix from the Halifax Ghost Walk, early August 2011, Mr. Str8, and I went with friends.
the spooky figures, (psssst.. dont tell but they are not real, I added them)

Sharing With the Bandits





My other wild friends, the raccoon family from my shed.. so cute.. funny, brazen,